“Splitting” is one of the characteristic symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder. It means seeing other people as either perfect or horrid. Insisting on personal perfection is a symptom of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. What is perfection? It’s the one thing that is flawless. There can only be one point that is perfect. Because it is perfect, it must be changeless. Can beauty be flawless? One can be gorgeous in one color scheme. But another color scheme can look just as good? How can one achieve perfection?
The Greek philosopher, Zeno, posited an arrow going toward it’s goal. At some point, it is halfway there. Then it’s halfway from there to the goal. How does it ever reach the goal? A dog equal distance between two bowls of food has to decide which bowl to go towards. But, if they are completely equal, how does the dog choose? Doesn’t the dog have to starve, being unable to decide between two equally perfect choices?
Everyone yearns for perfection but fortunately accepts the fact that it is impossible. Plato defined material reality the attempt of objects to achieve the perfect ideal form that never exists in reality. Christians take it as a point of their dogma that nobody is perfect (except Christ, of course) but they can be saved by Christ. Knowing one isn’t perfect, admitting it, is humility. What makes our universe imperfect? It is constant change. If perfection is a static state, something unsurpassable, every change takes us and the universe away from perfection.
So either perfection is either something not alive or it must encompass change. People say the universe is perfect. They must mean the universe, in it’s constant change and development, is perfection. Like that song that goes, “whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.”
If the universe is perfect as it is, we must be perfect too. All we need to do is accept our nature. “The law of Thelema is ‘Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the Law. Love is the law, love under will.’ The law of Thelema was developed in the early 1900s by Aleister Crowley, an English writer and ceremonial magician.”
“Do what thou wilt” sounds like a perfect statement of the psychopathic mind set. There is a catch though. This statement only refers to one’s “true will.” The true will is axiomatically what is in line with the universal will. You could call it “God’s will” if you were religious. The rest of the statement is “Love is the law, love under will.” Of course, if the universe is really perfect, true will would have to be in harmony with it. As a part of the universe, we can’t help but be perfect too. As the above-quoted song goes, “You are a child of the universe. No less than the trees and the stars, you have a right to be here.” All we have to do is accept ourselves as we are. We can still aspire to goals. But that aspiration is just another aspect of our perfection.
As a psychopath, the above philosophy resonates with me. The borderlines are right too. People are perfect (and/or perfectly horrible). And Narcs can stop searching for supply. They are perfect too.