Borderline Personality Disorder
Borderline has been the subject of much confusion as it originally meant someone on the edge between sanity and psychosis. As one of the Cluster B personality disorders, it is less about psychosis and more about an emotional rollercoaster which inhabitants of this disorder must ride. They have a deep fear of abandonment. But they also dislike engulfment. They are the most emotional of the Bs. Some therapists call Borderline the most curable of the personality disorders. But others question that it’s curable at all. It is just as stigmatized as the rest of the Bs. Borderlines are said to be difficult people to have relationships with. Yet I haven’t heard anyone claim to have been victimized by a Borderline.
Links
-
- Going Insane: How I got diagnosed with BPD, by Lucky Otter
- BPD. “One doctor told me I wasn’t ill, just a bad person.”
- Borderline Personality traits linked to lowered empathy
- 20 Secrets of People Who Live With Borderline Personality Disorder
- The Spiritual Gift of Borderline Personality Disorder. Cortland Pfeffer & Irwin Ozborne
- Why People with Borderline Personality Are So Hard to Please. Psychology Today
- Why BPD Can Be Attractive, Sexy, Seductive and Irresistible, by Rick, a man who loves women with BPD the way some women love psychopaths. Of course, Cluster B is where
the irresistible people are found. - The BPD Relationship Blueprint, by Rick
- Borderline Bella. Exploring Borderline Personality Disorder
- If Looks Count Kill: Anatomy of a Borderline, by Shari Schreiber, M.A. The longer version of this article is posted at her blog, Life Strategies
- Make BPD Stigma Free
- Do Narcissists and Borderlines Deserve Love? This is one of the first hate-borderline page I have come across. Yes, anti-BPD stigma is real.
- Borderlines: Incurable Demons or Trauma Victims? Lucky Otter
- Borderline Personality Disorder. Psych Central
- Why Narcissists and Borderlines are Drawn to Each Other
- Are BPD “Drama Queens” Manipulative, Sadistic, and Worse? Psychology Today
- The Borderline Within. Yours truly
- Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Symptoms, Treatment, and Recovery
- Borderline Personality Disorder. NIMH.
- The Emotional Vulnerability of Borderline Personality Disorder.
- 20 Rules for Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder.
- Treating BPD.
- Brain Biology, BPD & Mindfulness.
CLUSTER B 
That’s a good summary. The reputation and expectations of BPD folks among the treatment provider community are as complicated as the lives of the people diagnosed with it. And, for many, there are additional issues with substance abuse, PTSD, and physical conditions (notably Fibromyalgia for many years) being attributed to BPD as psychosomatic.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Oh, wow! That really sucks! Shrinks never think any problem can be physical. A friend of mine was in the nut house and got an obstructed colon. It took them forever to get her treated.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I had a client who went to ER complaining of feeling sick. They were busy and let her wait, thinking she was there for a psych issue (She was known there and diagnosed with Schizophrenia.) When the nurse finally got around to taking her vitals they took her straight to ICU. She was within an hour of complete kidney failure.
One good feature of where I worked Crisis was that the Psych Units were separate from the medical hospital, so anyone being considered for psych admission had to be medically cleared with full blood and urine labs and physical exam. Some serious problems were found that way.
LikeLike
Reblogged this on cabbagesandkings524 and commented:
Cluster B brings a brief description of BPD and links to resources.
LikeLike
As far as not hearing any claims of being victimized…what exactly do you mean by victimized?
I’m genuinely curious because:
When you go to the forums where people are talking about having been involved with borderlines or even youtube videos where people bash borderlines, they seem to be claiming to have been victimized.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I mean like those websites like Lovefraud that talk incessantly about psychopaths and narcissists who “prey” on them.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Oh I see. They don’t mention borderlines? I’ve seen on some sites that pretty much lump borderlines in with narcissists.
LikeLike
Oh yeah, I also wanted to comment that I’d bet that it’s known as being curable because many borderlines actually seek out help, are aware and a lot WANT to change. Personally I think BPD is usually complex PTSD, but that is just an opinion of someone with no formal education in mental health. Either way, it’s some difficult shit to clear. The abuse really enmeshes within a person and a deep belief forms that we are worthless.
I could go on, but I should just write my own post.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Borderline men are abusive in my experience. I do think that the disorders don’t stand alone in cluster b. I think they are all connected but one of the disorders is dominate. The others are still in there. This is how it was best explained to me, if someone who claims to love you does horrible things to you, or things that would hurt you if you found out, then that isn’t normal, especially without remorse. There is usually a personality disorder involved. In my experience that statement is completely true. I think there is some deep, pushed down hurt that formed or turned off certain areas of the brain that causes these disorders. I seen “the asshole” come out far too many times trying to cover up hurt or inadequate feelings. Anger, in my opinion, is always covering up for other emotions. You practice that too long and you lose the ability to feel anything but internal conflict, self absorbed emotions, and inability to connect to, empathize with, and understand other human beings.
There are, however, no reason or excuse for abusing another human being. Not physically, emotionally, financially….none of it. Everyone understands right and wrong.
LikeLike
I agree that Cluster B disorders overlap. I know I have aspects of all of them.
LikeLike
Is Borderline Personality Disorder curable?
That’s a damned good question. It gets even murkier to sort out when you learn that
Marsha Linehan who pioneered the only successful treatment modality, Dialectal Behavioral Therapy (DBT) for BPD, is not only the hair club president but she’s also a client. Linehan had Borderline Personality Disorder.
Can it go into remission with lots of DBT skills? Yes. Is it curable? Hmmmm. Not sure. It can burn out by mid-life. At their core Borderlines lack holding and soothing introjects. The bain of them will not stay in long-term therapy to do the necessary trauma work due to transference issues and therapy interfering behaviors; missing the chance to be re-parented with the therapist and opportunity to create the lacking holding and soothing introjects.
Although BPD can be a lifelong problem, people can get better. In most cases recovery is slow and difficult.
LikeLike